what u really what huh? You said you loved him and then said it's not love because you wanna hurt him as well ,okay I understand that But then you are actually physically hurting him and then all of a sudden you don't wanna hurt him????? Please make up your mind !!!!!! because you'll only hurt him more by prolonging this sh** you have going on *sigh* love is a dangerous and messed up word I tell you so why am I enjoying it??😭😭
@Lilsimp67 I think it's because he's scared of himself and what he might do. He has these sadistic impulses but knows there is a line he shouldn't cross. He thinks Sodam's at his limit and deliberately not using the safe wrong , so he's ended it. He has to care about his physical and emotional well-being this is supposed to be something they both want and get something out of. Safe, sane, consentual. The last one is tricky in this situation. This is coming from how he understands Sodam's background and behaviour a little. He knows the kid has abandonment issues, because of his family treat him. He's naive, easily lead, too trusting, fairly easy to manipulate, emotionally vunerable. I think he knows Sodam was a victim of domestic violence growing up. His mother's current partner is probably another abusive peice of work as well. Guy has issues with his own control, and grew up in a house with an uncle who was violent towards family members. He's seen uncontrollable violence upclose and personal and is probably terrified that he could be like that if he lets himself go. He is trying to take care of Sodam, and keep his impulses in check. The guys not perfect, he has a fair few red flags, but he also has the self awareness of his own issues. Unlike Liam. Problem is Sodam's grown up with a learned coping mechanism- placating and pleasing others as a way to keep himself safe. He will go beyond safe limits and endure what he shouldn't for the person he loves, to please them. Even when he has the power to stop it and say no. That's dangerous it makes him very vunerable to being exploited and abused. If whoever he's playing with doesn't maintain full and complete awareness something could go badly wrong, or they could learn to become abusive. Now this guy knows he can loose control, so he's terrified that he is going to go too far. That he'll let himself turn into a monster, and Sodam will just take it.
@otterlyanylitical oh da** this is the longest reply I have ever gotten but I read all and fully understand and agree with you and appreciate you taking your time to explain it to me and others😁🥰
what u really what huh? 