Comment by Hesper444 on Wet Sand - Chapter 9

Sorry, I didn’t mean to dislike it. Mistake!
I don’t think that Ian is the one who can’t let go or yearning or addicted to TJ tho, but it’s more like the other way around .
From 1ep, we can see that Ian try to cut connection with TJ (at least for a few year after he got his money) by moving out without telling , have his own one nightstand instead of going for TJ that is actually show that it is not Ian who can’t let go, but it’s more like TJ, who track him down after, and try to do everything to tied Ian down. I agreed that what happened is a emotional wound that was cut deep. Ian want to leave the gang for a long time ago but because of his love to TJ i think he forced himself to be there until the breaking point. I read from some comment that when you force something it tends to suffocating overtime. and I think that is why Ian love for TJ become a past tense . Their is so much forcing for Ian. 
But I can sense that Ian has a soft spot for TJ in his heart. It’s not because he still loves TJ or that they had s** but coz TJ is the closest friend to Ian, they are friends for 19 years and I believe that during Ian drug additction TJ is the one who helped him. They have a very deep dependency to each other. “he's just a single guy who can't help it when that particular person that always comes back to him”  I can feel this sentence deeply. Their bound are deep that even tho Ian can let it go like i said it will leave scar. At first I was confused  about how Ian feeling for TJ, but the story start to show us that it’s in the past for Ian. I can feel the new beginning coming for him. ( after all the drama) 
Even though it’s in the past for Ian, but I don’t think it’s in the past for TJ . I’m sure that TJ knew what happening but just chose to ignore it. He wants thing to be as it were. 
Anyway, I’m sorry for yapping so much I just like that sentence that you said about “particular person” that I want to reply.

and yes, I don’t think Ian is a wh***. I kept seeing some comment saying he’s a wh*** but honestly he is not even in a proper FWB relationship with TJ. He even try to have his own life by moving out have his ONS but then got track down. Yes it’s not good to sleeping around but I guess some people does.  Actually Im not picking the team, I'm fine with Jo or TJ, being the endgame but more invested in story line and character development... but it fun to read or the mommy fighting for their children (TJ and Jo)

I don't know maybe there might still be something left from Ian's part .. or maybe not .. but TJ is the clingy one for sure i read the later chapters and it's clear that he doesn't wants attachments ...

Yeah Ian's clearly doesn't want attachment or love TJ in a romantic way( that might change again or never who knows?) but I wouldn't say the same thing about their friendship. You can stop love someone in romantic way but still love them as your friend. But Ian know fully well that he needed time away from Tj coz of toxicity and because he want out of the gang. tj is too close to the gan

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