@TOTCF You can think whatever you want to think; it's the internet after all and I have no reason to be invested in if anonymous strangers believe me or not. It's funny how your perspective is so distorted to think that having 6 kids is somehow similar to having 19 kids or somehow that requiring your older kids to learn how to help take care of the younger kids is somehow a bad thing. Unlike this story, we don't require the father (me) to do everything in the entire household. Everyone pulls their own weight and contributes to helping the family out. That's why I can actually make two meals from scratch ingredients as opposed to plopping milk and cereal in front of the kids because I can trust the older kids to keep the youngest ones from hurting themselves or burning the entire house down the second I look away. And it's not like it's not work to take care of 6 kids, run a business, cook and clean but it's perfectly manageable with two people (and 1 in a pinch) and I know exactly how much work it is which is why I'm not convinced by the gaslighting when we are talking about a single child and a 3 person household.
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@Prinzinc oh g** making cereal and korean dishes with banchan are different. Just because you the man dont struggle doesnt mean you invalidate others feelings . And she is not giving attitude just because its because he didn't keep his promise. And he can enjoy with his collegue by drinking but she has no time to do that . Yes both of them got their struggles
@Prinzinc "or somehow that requiring your older kids to learn how to help take care of the younger kids is somehow a bad thing. Unlike this story, we don't require the father (me) to do everything in the entire household. Everyone pulls their own weight and contributes to helping the family out."
...yeah, yeah okay sure. 1st. This story only showed the husband working and taking zero responsibility for the housework. He also didn't come home after work, he went out drinking. That was the issue. It read like he was doing this often. That's not a good husband or father. Sure, once and awhile but you call your spouse and let them know He clearly avoided calling her because he knew she would be upset. Would you be okay if your spouse went out drinking and didn't tell you, often?
2nd. yeah, I'm sure you won't care if people reading this are convinced you aren't forcing your children to act like adults and do more than normal chores around the house. It's totally normal, to ask your children to parent the younger ones. That's normal, just like how it's normal for farmers to put their kids to work on the farm, without pay, because that's just how it needs to be. It's normal for kids to be homeschooled and to not be socialized with other kids that would tell them "hey that's weird your parents want yo to essentially have a job and not be paid for doing that much labor, even for family."
look man, that tv family didn't start at 19, they built up to that number but the thing that was obvious and sad is that they normalized treating their older children badly in order to take care of the younger ones. Hopefully, that's not what it's like in your house but like you said, we're strangers so I'm sure you won't care what I or anyone else thinks. 🙂👍
...yeah, yeah okay sure. 1st. This story only showed the husband working and taking zero responsibility for the housework. He also didn't come home after work, he went out drinking. That was the issue. It read like he was doing this often. That's not a good husband or father. Sure, once and awhile but you call your spouse and let them know He clearly avoided calling her because he knew she would be upset. Would you be okay if your spouse went out drinking and didn't tell you, often?
2nd. yeah, I'm sure you won't care if people reading this are convinced you aren't forcing your children to act like adults and do more than normal chores around the house. It's totally normal, to ask your children to parent the younger ones. That's normal, just like how it's normal for farmers to put their kids to work on the farm, without pay, because that's just how it needs to be. It's normal for kids to be homeschooled and to not be socialized with other kids that would tell them "hey that's weird your parents want yo to essentially have a job and not be paid for doing that much labor, even for family."
look man, that tv family didn't start at 19, they built up to that number but the thing that was obvious and sad is that they normalized treating their older children badly in order to take care of the younger ones. Hopefully, that's not what it's like in your house but like you said, we're strangers so I'm sure you won't care what I or anyone else thinks. 🙂👍