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@Sleeping log  regardless of who wrote it, these tropes are both overdone and harmful. but in this case specifically, the storytelling feels like it came from a male lens.

the female characters are not properly developed in contrast to the male ones and they tend to fall into very common "plot roles". hae-soo is the diamond-in-the-rough hard worker. she's been mistreated by men all her life (eg. her abusive father, her deadbeat husband) and is waiting for taeha to show her he's different and lift her out of poverty.

jealous women swoon and hit on taeha constantly and resent haesoo for holding his attention (e.g. flower shop coworker). one woman is so obsessed she practically begs him to go out with her bc she's "liked him first and longer". cheating narcissist mincheol has another naive, innocent, young girl in his manipulative clutches and she falls for it hook line and sinker. every other woman pictured is having sεx with the bodyguard, the ML's older brother, or referred to in men's convos like objects.

in general, everything, including all the characters, seems to be designed to make taeha look cooler. there's more scenes depicting taeha "outperforming" other men, either in terms of status, physical appearance like height/musculature, or generally just charm (which btw—super weird. do men need to be locked in some imaginary competition with each other constantly? give them a break and some genuine friends. jesus.).

anyway, i won't deny that women also tend to write men being domineering in dark romances, but combined with everything else it just makes it more likely that a man was wrote this.
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@bibliophage  
Now that you have said it I see what you mean. And yeah, the woman doesn't feel almost 1 dimensional (maybe 1.5 D), but so far the dudes have been acting in a ununderstundable way apart from basic stuff, which I guess is supposed to be cool and mysterious. 

Now that I am looking at this webtoon in a more objective way, I see that the main reason this is enjoyable is because we feel bad for FL and want the best for her.

And to your question, in my experience dudes tend to openly say who they dislike, even to the others face, but it is also common to see guys just support eachother through just hanging out, not discussing feelings. And honestly, I haven't seen dudes in "competition" with eachother, because, irl, what reasons are there to complete? And if there are contests, it is clear as day, but it is also for the fun of it, at the end of the day, if it's something trivial, it's a way to complement eachother in a roundabout way, whilst enjoying the time. 

Altho it is true that we compare ourselves to the others to see how we stack up, and also it isn't hard, since guys constantly tease eachothers unhurtful weak points (at least that is the idea, but sometimes we poke things that should be left because).