@Iloveblandgl It sounds like you've been reading Yaoi when you want shounen ai!!! The terms are a bit outdated, but that's what they're categorised as on this website, so I've used them. Shounen Ai focuses on the non-sexual, romantic side of BL and, as a result, tends to be a lot fluffier. Sometimes they have a couple of s** scenes, but they're almost always censored and happen well into the story. One of my favourites is "Love Tractor", I'd highly recommend!!
I'm quite straightforward & tend to answer questions if i see them. 
Please forgive me if i come across as blunt and/or take you too seriously.
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