The problem is that you took her feelings for granted and never shared your feelings about her.. it's too selfish to keep hurting someone like that... She gave you years of comfort and you gave back insecurity.. If he felt lucky for having her in his life, if she was that precious, he should've secured that, even if it was by asking her to wait until you solved your personal problems. Saying nothing and letting the other person in doubt for so many years is cruel.. not only did he not give her assurance, but he kept rejecting her. Normally, people would've left you since the first rejection.. she was really really patient and loved you a lot...