Comment by kaguya_s_weiner on Things that you want in an ideal partner

@kaguya_s_weiner  

it’s not stupid, it’s practical and in my opinion, a well thought out list. Do you participate in any LGBTQ+ communities? Good chance you’ll find someone who meets most of your criteria in an atmosphere conducive to it? :)

@Random commenter   not really,  I don't know where to find  them, and j love in a homophobjc country,  so I can't just hit on somebody.... thank you tho

@kaguya_s_weiner

 

that is indeed a tough one as people who feel the same as you can't publicly disclose (unless they have status or popularity). Does your country criminalize LGBTQ+ (throw people in jail or worse if they are LGBTQ+)? If it doesn't, consider talking to people you trust to see if they know anything that can help you. If its frowned upon, but not persecuted by law, you at least have a chance (even if it is hard)

I'm rooting for you 

@kaguya_s_weiner  

I forgot something so obvious, online dating. Because it is harder to restrict internet sites, see if there are any apps or websites that facilitate online dating for same gender. You may get lucky and find someone not too far from you who is a good match. Online dating does have risks, but about 1/8 marriages are between people who first met online so it has a reasonable chance

@Random commenter  that is actually such a cool idea, but i dont really know if there are any apps for like wlw? and how old do you have to be to download it???? also i am a bit scared bc i have met a fair share of creeps and pedos in my life...

i have told my closest to friends, and even kissed one of them, buti dont think they would be intersted, and its always better to keep it to yourself, if you are un love with your bestfrind.... so none ofmy friends are an optiion T_T
thankk you very much

@kaguya_s_weiner  

I’m sure there is at least one (there are apps for dating between people of the same faith, people who share same goals, and other specialty). As for avoiding creeps, the rule of thumb too good to be true usually applies. But you can meet in a public place with other people around, ask a friend to tag along and ensure the person you meet is who they claim to be and/or carry pepper spray or other defensive tool just in case.

Might be worth to look into a community called Gen Z for change. It’s a place where young people like yourself who dislike how their society is (ie: LGBTQ+ in a place not appreciated) can get together and talk ideas and encourage one another as I understand. Because people are passionate, good chance you will meet someone sincere.

I’m rooting for you

@Random commenter thank you!