Half of these comments are pis**** me off, he isn't *the r slur. He doesn't want him to leave him and what happened to him is fresh so its traumatizing yall need to calm tf down. Maybe you have or would have done something else in this situation but personally I only told one person because I trusted them, and it took me a while to tell them cause i didn't want them to think differently about me - and they didnt but the thought of being hated for something that isn't your fault is hard enough to think about and the situation in which the trauma happened makes it he** of a lot worse. Think before you think.