I hate myself, everything was fine n I was making lunch but my sister kept annoying my mon so I also got a bit irritated but didn't say much js told her to keep quiet, while Iunch was still cooking my mom remarked I didn't put something in it's place which I was gonna after lunch was done so I in a annoyed tone said if she saw that as well as that I was busy then why couldn't she do it herself n it was rude but it wasn't that bad, after lunch was done I was preparing to serve everyone n arranging dishes to which she js asjed for aachar but idk why all of a sudden I js got really annoying and started shouting and had a fight with her and raised my voice at her which I shouldn't have. I don't know what came over me to suddenly react like that over nothing but I hurt her feelings by losing control and I feel very bad. I will apologize to her and try to make up for it once I cool down completely but I think I'd been frustrated mentally these days n exploded suddenly like that, even I didn't think I had much bottled up for me to loose myself like that. How do I approach her?
@Yewik Chettri hlo, u know i ve also a little sis n we always fight n yelling each other but u know as an elder sister we should approach to our sister ...first cool ur mind say ur sis a sorry n tell her reason why u yell n give her her fav icecream, chocolate or any meal she like i think she will love it...n as she is ur little sister she will understand u and give u warm smile..fighting with siblings is common it will strong ur bond..may this will help you
@Yewik Chettri I would usually wait a bit (so they ain't mad) then approach with tea and dessert to share for a sincere apology. Sometimes a cat in arms as well. Food is great at bridging and no one can get angry at a cat. I wouldn't approach for conversation if they're already stressed at another target though because anger easily jumps targets. In that case I'd quietly deliver treats with an apology sticky note attached.
don't wait too long to approach though, there is a time and place for everything. Don't wait till tomorrow and if they are still fuming really bad 20 mins after your crime forget the food and run up and apologise immediately, they won't easily forgive you other wise.
real apologies are about listening. People have a tendency to rehearse excuses and then cracking it mid poor apology because it didn't meet expectations. Don't walk in defensive with arms crossed, you need to show your not mad and reasonable otherwise you asking for another fight. Keep yourself open. Good luck.
@Yewik Chettri oo...sry my mistake i think u should clam urself n give a lttle tym to ur mother n realize ur mistake bt don't take much tym n tell her how sorry u r ...may this advice help u
