Hi guys, I need to have a quick rant on something, so I have this friend who is really great at giving advice and is a great listener when you talk to her about the problems you're facing. However, when I give her advice or share my thoughts and opinions on her dilemmas, she doesn't seem that interested. She kind of brushes it off or changes the conversation, but not entirely. It upsets me because when she's giving advice, I'm fully listening and trying to understand, and I don't feel like she does the same for me.
@Aren't they cool? Ok, I am gonna give you some solution 1. Ignoring her should be best and making new friends 2. Talk less to her and make new friends that understand you 3. Talk to her and find solution 4. Don't do anything then you will feel like your relation with her is weakening.
I have experience all this. And the last one that happened almost 2 to 3 times but who cares I just make more friends so that I could forgot about it and move on.
@Aren't they cool? Maybe she doesn't want to trouble you. It takes time for people to open up so just keep being friends and maybe someday she will open up and ask for help/advice. The reason might be completely different but hey treasure a friend who listens.
@Aren't they cool? I suggest having a conversation with her about this. I wouldn't pressure her to share stuff but make sure she's not alone and is aware that you're there for her. If she's the type of friend who complains a lot and when you give them advice they always ignore it then I suggest stop giving advice and maybe taking some time for yourself because it can be very draining giving constant advice and help and having it thrown through the window. But before all this I do strongly recommend talking to her about it because if she is a good friend she'll listen and you guys can handle this maturely.
@just addicted I don't completely ignore that kind of friend just we rarely talks nowadays because of separation of our interests. He loves sports and whereas I love mangas and anime and I can't change my interests for Friends
@just addicted i agree with this. It takes time to open up for some ppl. Even though she acts like she doesn't listen to you , trust me she does. She just doesn't want to accept what u said about her situation 'right now'. Maybe she thinks of it later. Watch her for awhile and take steps further as ur gut says
