Yall forgetting this guy is literally a rapist
Comment by Skibidi on Hit on By a Kinky Guy - Chapter 39
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@Skibidi not forgetting, forgiving.
@Tf_ who forgives rapists theres something wrong with yall
@HAHHAHAHA Many people do. World isn't black and white.
Tho I understand why someone might not forgive Takamada and that's very valid take.
Why I forgive Takamada is because he never blames or gaslights Yu. He doesn't try to justify what he did and he swore to never do it again and has kept that promise.
I think the way this manga handles rap* is one of the best ways of handling it I've seen in bl. Usually when bl has rap* it's just brushed off and never talked again but here Takamada is traumatized by his own actions faar into the story and those actions are acknowledged multiple time throughout the story.
Tho I understand why someone might not forgive Takamada and that's very valid take.
Why I forgive Takamada is because he never blames or gaslights Yu. He doesn't try to justify what he did and he swore to never do it again and has kept that promise.
I think the way this manga handles rap* is one of the best ways of handling it I've seen in bl. Usually when bl has rap* it's just brushed off and never talked again but here Takamada is traumatized by his own actions faar into the story and those actions are acknowledged multiple time throughout the story.
@Tf_ i get that. but the story obviously shows yu is still traumatized by kens past actions and it doesn't change what he did was awful. in MY personal opinions r*pist should never, EVERRRR be forgiven. what they do is on theirself.
@HAHHAHAHA how does Yu being traumatized show?
I can't really see it. Like sure when Taka was still assaulting him he would be afraid, mad, annoyed etc. But after ep 30 I don't see Yu being intimidated by Taka at all.
I can't really see it. Like sure when Taka was still assaulting him he would be afraid, mad, annoyed etc. But after ep 30 I don't see Yu being intimidated by Taka at all.
@Tf_ later in the manga, yu allows ken to let out his desires. in some moments he shows obvious fear, cant remember which chapter its in but youll see it later in the manga
@HAHHAHAHA At ep 150 Yu did get scared.
"when we split up.. He looked strange and it scared me.. So I was little worried about seeing him... But he's the same old Takamada"
How ever if it was trauma I don't think he would go find Taka when he is "worried about seeing him".
And if he was actually scared of what Taka might do he wouldn't have let him do whatever. Like there's no point where Yu is concerned for himself. If anything I think ep 151-153 show how much Yu actually trusts Taka despite the things he did at the beginning.
Who is traumatized there is Takamada himself, he doesn't trust himself. What's good tho is that he expresses those concerns to Yu and despite that Yu trusts him. (again don't see Yu as the traumatized one)
@Tf_ ??? the way ur straight up not evn recognizing what ken did to yu in the past, it stated that yu was SCARED. thats enough proof in itself that yu still has trauma. every r*pe victim has trauma. and the way that youre tryna say that the perpetrator is traumatized and NOT the victim us crazy??
@HAHHAHAHA
As I stated in the beginning "not forgetting, forgiving."
If that's how you define trauma then ok. Yu got scared once by Takas sudden change of demeanor. Yu didn't panic, Yu didn't become afraid of Taka, Yu didn't avoid Taka, Yu didn't get panic or stress, Yu was more worried about Takas well being than his own.
If you think that getting scared in the level Yu got scared by Taka then I don't know a single person who isn't traumatized.
You are searching signs of trauma in Yu and ignoring all the signs Taka clearly shows if you really are claiming that you don't recognize that the perpetrator (Taka) can be the traumatized one.
I'm not saying Yu can't be traumatized. I would't be that surprised if he was, but this far I have not seen signs of Yu having a trauma from the things he endured at least in the grade that would actually affect his life and well being.
Yu did have a trauma about his father passing tho. Which showed Yu not wanting to let the shop be renovated. So we know how Yu might handle his trauma if he had it (places and things hold the memories for Yu). I think he would get rid of the things that remind him of Taka or avoid the things/places that remind him of those, maybe he would have traumatic flashbacks that would lead to anger/stress/panic when he does encounter the things that remind him of Taka.
Every victim is different. Yu as a victim doesn't show signs of trauma. I'm not claiming that r*pe is ok or that Yu is good depiction of person who has gone trough the things he did, but he is the character we have and the character I'm analyzing here. I'm not making broad assumptions of people who have gone trough similar experiences and I really hope no one took it that way.
@Tf_ youre literally proving my point. saying yu doesnt have any trauma is wild. if he didnt, he wouldnt have avoided ken and take so long to warm up to him. youre making no sense