@ScreamingRn idk bout you but including pain and trauma in a relationship is never a good thing, yes a relationship cannot be perfect ang will always have it's days of burn but that doesn't mean that we uphold the bad just so we can think that there's good. If you are looking properly, Ian only likes TJ but he never loved him, he's just someone important, the only family he knew and that's it, unlike Jo where is considerable as a one night stand just like almost every other guys he sleeps with, he never thought of him that way, as a matter of fact, loved the way Jo is treating him. TJ and Ian's relationship is deep but a mess, everytime they have s**, he looks like his jn pain but he can't say no as he knows why TJ became obsessed with him during to him and nothing else. If you still think Ian loved TJ, you gotta be in another level of delusion