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I'm rotting away on my couch right now, meanwhile all my friends and classmates are out enjoying the music and festive events in our town. Honestly I'm more pis*** about the fact that my friends rarely invite me to hang out because they usually have plans with their other friends. I have a G** awful period cramp, which not only brings me physical pain but also mental pain (that's a story for another time) but I'm just wondering, am I that boring that nobody wants to hang out with me? Are all of their other friends better than me? I guess they are. They must be

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Well sometimes i also feel the same(especially during periods)but you know what you can always talk to us
You are not alone
well i do feel alone some time due to these fuc**** good ml

And if it is about you are boring then you are wrong 
Because no one is boring everyone's life is interesting its  just that you friends don't really understand you

I also sometimes feel the same because my friend and i dont really share the same interest but we are just happy to have each other because maybe we both are introvert and loyal
I hope your friends also understand you

Well i am not really good with my words but i wish you will feel beeter after reading my message

X_x said you can talk to us periods suck honestly and your friends sounds like mine honestly cuz they always leave me hanging just to be with there other friends but it is what is hopefully you find that one friend that's gonna stick with u threw thick and thin no matter what and be your ride or die

Make sure to stay warm and drink hot fluids as lower than ideal body temperature has adverse effects when suffering menstrual (period) cramps. Certain foods like ginger could be helpful so consider mixing it in to food you eat.

Friend is not a universal term unfortunately. It's probably one of the most nuanced term as you have friends for the sake of business (for example: classmates or coworkers), internet friends (ie: people on a forum or social media), friends you only talk to when you need something (friends with benefits which is not just the se.xual conntation), and mutually benefitical friends (meaning a friendship where both sides feel is an actual friendship).

The last category is true friendship. Most "friends" drift apart as their reason for meeting & talking goes away (for example, school friends after graduating). Friendship requires genuine effort to maintain so its important that a friend be worth making time and effort to try and stay in regular contact with. Fortunately, Life is full of opportunities to encounter and build friendships with others at different stages of life.

It may be helpful to try and consider your friends point of view.

1. Have they invited you in the past and you declined? Declining invitations most of the time discourages others from wanting to invite you

2. Do you and them talk outside natural conversation topics (for example, if you are friends in school, do you talk outside school about non-school related topics?)

3. Are you someone they perceive as a buzzkill or mood killer? Socially awkward folks are more likely to be excluded because others believe having them around would not be fun. There is basis to this because if you are anxious when hanging out, it's hard for you and others to genuinely enjoy the gathering.

4. Do you invite them to have fun on things that matter to you? It's a lot easier to invite someone if they invite you, because that signals to them you are interested and open to hanging out.

Don't assume anything. Period time is, not myself time. And if they know how pained you are they may assume it's best you rest. I knew people who nearly collapsed from the pain. First do not take medical advice from the internet, call your doc about birth control, sounds crazy but I know someone that it it helped, not sure how, but no more fainting from pain, yay and it may help with migraines or mood or whatever too.  For now, microwave a sock full of rice and lay it right over your ovaries and try to melt the pain away.

Frield groups are not like in elementary school. People network and groups divide by desired activity. 

If you are concerned about your friendships, generally, just make sure there isn't a backstabber in your group, otherwise things should be okay. If you are really concerned, discover what really excites you and join a club, group, event activity and make a new friend. You can let old friends drift away, but don't cut them off unless they are betraying you....