I totally understand why one need to focus on one's own life choices. As you said, it's her neglect of her own kids I am talking about. If she needs to pay for her bills, so does her friend. If she has her own dreams- her friend might have had some too. Yet she pushed everything on to her like it was nothing. She didn't talk or make a single call all these years. It's her own kids. If she really cared for both, she would atleast want to know if they are alive and well. It's the total abondonment that made me sad.