Comment by Noyoki on The Secret to Winning Unrequited Love - Chapter 22

...dude... why the he** is everybody dumping on Seoyoon? Yeah, he intended to do a pump-and-dump on Hyun, but he didn't actually DO IT. Yeah, his personality is sh**, he has some seriously fuc***-up thoughts and intentions (that HE'S NEVER ACTED ON), and he thinks one thing and says another, but none of that makes him a black flag or even a red flag. He's clumsy in his feelings, and is (or was) completely oblivious, but it's clear he's had feelings for a very long time.

Hyun, on the other hand, DID  do a pump-and-dump. TWICE. So why is everybody dumping on Seoyoon instead?! He's the one who willingly ran out during high school--Seoyoon didn't. HE is the reason they lost contact. HYUN is the one who didn't clarify the relationship between him and his brother. HE is the one making things confusing and difficult, running away, and outright lying about his feelings. So why the fu** all the hate towards Seoyoon instead?!

Quite frankly, I've never understood why people one-sidedly support the ukes who run, without trying to even have any sort of understanding for the semes. You have to realize, half the time (especially this time), the semes are working with INCOMPLETE INFORMATION, purely because of the uke's actions or words (or lack thereof). You cannot blame someone for believing what's visible in front of their eyes, when they've never been told anything else. 

Hate on me all you want, but I know I'm right. Try looking at Hyun's actions from Seoyoon's viewpoint. He's not a black flag, not a red flag, not even fully a yellow flag at this point. He's certainly not a green flag, true, but other than the word vomit that he can't seem to stop, he's really not been bad to Hyun at all.