And lastly since I'm self projecting, I do feel a bit sad for the misunderstandings that's going since when I was younger I also felt neglected but obv not to her level and it felt like my parents didnt rlly care for me as much even tho all i wanted was their love and attention and ik that if younger me saw my relationship with them now she'd cry tears of joy. Its js cuz she wished for it so hard yk, i kinda js want her to be able to experience it and love it but if she feels that never speaking to them is the best way forward, i'll respect it