@Spotless guy Lol i'm also gay and whenever i slept with someone other person was always top i just felt pain each time honestly it wasn't pleasurable i thought maybe its because i havn't been sleeping with the one i love but some random dude but i can't really explain how that felt idk no matter how many times i did it my answer was always idk how it felt well because of this confusion i don't know if i'm top or bot