@nikora people like you probably have no sense of love and loyalty. I do agree that jo path is good for his life and his future. But Ian life and path is whats right fie his future.
Jinx is stressing me out, still love ML though
Comment by Chenel on nikora
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@Chenel As I said, I hope Ian gets to be happy with TJ, I just feel like there are some unspoken things lingering and that the "resolve" felt a bit fast to me.
I don't know why you're questioning my sense of loyalty or love, I didn't mean to imply that either is bad or that Ian made the "wrong" choice. I do think however, that loyalty alone is not a good base for a relationship, especially if that causes ones self to no longer be loyal to ones self and ones own beliefs. Loyalties are often a good thing, but they change over time, especially when people grow, that is not necessarily a bad thing. Also loyalty has to be earned and upkept, if I keep treating those, who are loyal to me like s*t, they have no obligation to stay loyal to me.
If you've ever been in an abusive relationship or know someone who has been, you might come to the conclusion that changing loyalties can be a really good thing, because other than love, which we have no control over, we can decide ourselves if we want to stay loyal to a person. So please, keep that in mind when talking to "people like me" who have heard enough about why loyalty is so important when things get hard. It is, if the source of trouble is NOT one of the partners in the relationship.
I don't know why you're questioning my sense of loyalty or love, I didn't mean to imply that either is bad or that Ian made the "wrong" choice. I do think however, that loyalty alone is not a good base for a relationship, especially if that causes ones self to no longer be loyal to ones self and ones own beliefs. Loyalties are often a good thing, but they change over time, especially when people grow, that is not necessarily a bad thing. Also loyalty has to be earned and upkept, if I keep treating those, who are loyal to me like s*t, they have no obligation to stay loyal to me.
If you've ever been in an abusive relationship or know someone who has been, you might come to the conclusion that changing loyalties can be a really good thing, because other than love, which we have no control over, we can decide ourselves if we want to stay loyal to a person. So please, keep that in mind when talking to "people like me" who have heard enough about why loyalty is so important when things get hard. It is, if the source of trouble is NOT one of the partners in the relationship.