I have been talking to this guy for 7 months online and we are the same age. We video chat all the time... he says he wants to marry me, but I told him I'm not ready. Because I'm not ready, we haven't even met in real life...
he says i shouldn't waste his time bc he wants to get married he thinks I don't love him and I'm just messing around, he says we should end it bc he is getting too emotionally attached.
im 95% sure he is the right one for me but uuurgh I wanna stay together but not committed to a marriage already, it's too fast! And I said directly I'm not sure about marriag
If i am on ur situations, i prefer to not agree with that marriage thing. This is my opinion. You only know for 7 months yet he wanna get married. I think this is too early. Or can I suggest for you to introduce him to your family and look if they're okay with him if you 95% sure he is your mr right
Talking online won't be enough to guarantee that he's the type of guy you really wanna married. Who knows how he act when you two are not on call? What if you 2 got married and found out there's so many different lifestyle or opinion that makes the both of you fight or disagree? Some habits can't change in just a few days and some won't change. By that time you wanna divorce? Marriage is like a resume you know. Some guy might not like it if you have a divorce. What if the guy abuse you? Many abuse victim have hard time getting out of the situation. Some didn't even get out but instead up to heaven.
So please do not rush into marriage. You have to really know the person well enough. Also need to know their family. Will he take after your side if his family member treat you badly? Will your mother in law like you and treat you well? If your bf a mama boy? You need more information to decide.
Talking online won't be enough to guarantee that he's the type of guy you really wanna married. Who knows how he act when you two are not on call? What if you 2 got married and found out there's so many different lifestyle or opinion that makes the both of you fight or disagree? Some habits can't change in just a few days and some won't change. By that time you wanna divorce? Marriage is like a resume you know. Some guy might not like it if you have a divorce. What if the guy abuse you? Many abuse victim have hard time getting out of the situation. Some didn't even get out but instead up to heaven.
So please do not rush into marriage. You have to really know the person well enough. Also need to know their family. Will he take after your side if his family member treat you badly? Will your mother in law like you and treat you well? If your bf a mama boy? You need more information to decide.
No need to rush. Better be late in marriage than be stuck with the wrong partner for life. Meetup, talk irl, if he's pushing then it's a red flag. Drop him if he thinks it's a waste of time, marriage is an investment for a lifetime. Maybe I'm not good at giving advice on marriage 'cause I already give up on it
Babes in my opinion time doesn't matter at alll cause you can date someone for 5 years and they might not be the one but my concern is the online dating it's not like you guys have met in real life and spent quality time with each other to evaluate his real life character and behaviour. I don't know him but you need to see how he behaves behind the camera to truly know someone. And he should be understanding why is he in a rush to get married to someone he met online, I'm just saying babes cause the world is a very scary place. in my friendly opinion ask him out tell him you want to experience a real life dating. And if its possible cause I hope you guys have not met due to the fact you are in different countries and visa issues. cause if its possible to have met since then take it from me NO. Cause if is so bent on marrying you you would have met each other since
and since you are not ready for marriage. My best advice is don't displease yourself ti please him, cause babe you won't be happy with yourself if things don't work out. You are beautiful and there are so many better things ahead of you so don't bend your wishes for someone who is in a rush to do things Rome wasn't built in a day babe
NO you shouldn't make a big decision like marriage in hurry! you guys don't even know each other in real.you know people are different in real than how they are on online.so try meeting him in real life!know more about him. if everything is going well after meeting him then you can try making decisions.
This all kinds of red flag. Stop talking to this guy. I'm old, have been married 15 years and have a bunch of kids, so have life experience. Dude is fishy as he**.
Oh girl, I smell the toxicity to the other side of the world. He is emotionally manipulating you into making a huge life decision without even trying to show a level of commitment where he'd come and visit to meet you in person without putting immense pressure on you beforehand. I'm sorry, but he sounds like a gaslightning, up to no good boy who you should block and avoid like the plage, don't ruin your life for somebody you don't truly know. Marriage after 7 months of "knowing" eachother is crazy enough, let alone if you've never met in person, that would be a he** to the no, love. And sorry if I come off as harsh, but I'd rather see you being a bit offended by my words than not letting you see that you are putting yourself in a possibly very severe, devastating and dangerous situation. You only have one life, don't just offer it off on a plater to a virtual stranger and look out for yourself!
I totally agree with what every one has said but also its only 7 months into your relationship you guys should be still in your honeymoon period, Meeting each other n just enjoying being together. I understand that people's circumstances are all different but pushing for marriage and making it so that if u say 'I'm not ready yet' then he'll be hurt n maybe break up with you... that's emotional blackmail, should you really be making your new girfriend feel this way?... it dose scream catfish but giving benefit of the dowt u should have a serious talk with him about how u feel n what you want. If its how u truly feel then it wont be wrong, don't dowt your self n be strong. If he carrys on with the EB and he doesn't respond the way you would have hoped then he's not truly the one for you. Just look bk on it as a lesson. U never no if u did settle u may miss the one that would have truly made u happy. I hope you Do what u believe is right for you hunny and good luck... every one deserves love, respect and happiness x**
