@jeremy!?! because it isnt toxic at all. s&m is all about trusting your partner, entrusting your body to your partner (or vice versa) and have lots of communication (MOST IMPORTANT). aside from being perverts ofc, not a lot of people have what it takes to handle this and should stay vanilla forever for their safety. there's really a LOT of work done in this kind of relationship, it isnt something that is ever done half assed nor without a lot study/knowledge beforehand. /gen