@TotallyAbsurd as the kind of person who has moved from one place to another, I can tell you that having that "one person" or that "one neighbor" is important. You can call it ulterior motives, but it's much like a rabbit cannot live without company, you cannot just assimulate into a community without finding a doorway. If you're not at least willing to search that hard, you'll be stuck a loner that only talks to people when you need them. Finding friends in a new community is a pain-in-the-A**, but if you get close to just a single person, even if it's not for friendship, you can easily become friends with others. I still remember getting close to the neighborhood wierdo, just to become friends with the person who walked up to me and whispered "hey, isn't he a little nuts?" we had DEFINITELY found a common ground 🤣
...because ✨MAGIC✨