I wouldnt say ml is selfish he waited and searched a lot but i hate the way he handled the situation. Mc was in s voma for 5 yrs and suddenly everything has changes so cutting him off so cruelly is so unfair. The new bf should also try to understand like they dated for 8 yrs is no fkin joke. To ml its been 5 yrs but to mc its hardly been any time at all since he woke up all alone in a foreign country whose language he cant even speak. Mc is acting reasonable but ml is allowed to move on but man at least have some empathy