Comment by KJMLove on The edge of ambiguity - Chapter 31

@KJMLove fighting back in that situation isn't easy as u think y'know

@KJMLove  u don't understand how serious shock and fear can paralyze yo

@KJMLove nose si pasaste por algo parecido o no(ojalá y no).....pero en la mayoría de los casos uno no puede tardar reaccionar o simplemente se quedaen shock.......otros si reacción con la situación pero la mayoría no espero y compredas que la mayoría no sabe cómo reaccionar en ese momento no piensas bien que hacer y eso

@KJMLove I somewhat get what you are saying. But as a victim of r@p3, you need to understand that it's hard to fight back. Extremely. Depending on physicality and mentality it's different on each person, but overall it remains difficult. Soo-young in this case was immensely overpowered by physicality and was in extreme panick and shock causing him to not be in the right mind: especially when it was someone he knew personally.  And sometimes "fighting back" in a situation where you are very overpowered by physicality especially by someone who isn't in the right mind, can do more harm than good to one's self. And soo-young isn't in "shock" right now, he's scarred and suffering from ptsd. And his character will likely be affected for SEVERAL chapters moving forward. It's disgusting that you're calling soo-young weak af for it.
for the next bit it's just a personal ick so you don't really have to read it
(also it's low key gross that you're referring gyujin by his name but not soo-young or jihwan. Why're your referring them by s** positions? And yk yaoi means gay po** (targeted to women) same as hentai means "straight" po** in English, just say bl (even tho there's no love😭) or say that you wished there'd be more stronger mcs in mlm media or smthn. Idk it feels gross that you're referring a bl drama as yaoi).

@KJMLove While yaoi and BL are used interchangeably by some, it is important to acknowledge that there can be nuances in their usage. Yaoi originated as a term in Japan and is commonly associated with explicit content, while BL (Boys' Love) is often used to describe more romantic and emotionally focused narratives. It's crucial to respect the preferences of others and use terminology that accurately represents the content and its intended audience.

also, when I said "yaoi is gay po**" I was deminizing it to a surface understanding. Looking back my wording was incorrect. I know that it isn't just "gay po**", but it's broadly used as a term for "erotic bl" basically. But you still should understand to a degree it is categorized as "explicit" or "18+" bl.
Even if it's categorized using that, that doesn't mean it's always the best terminology, example: killing stalking is tagged with (Yaoi_BL) when you look on any site (from my knowledge), but you wouldn't describe it as a yaoi when referring to it, even if it's tagged as so.

@KJMLove  
Using "uke" and "seme" as titles instead of the characters' names can be considered disrespectful and inappropriate for several reasons. Firstly, it contributes to the dehumanization and objectification of characters, reducing them to mere stereotypes based on their sexual roles. Additionally, it undermines the creative decisions and intentions of the authors, who have crafted multidimensional characters with unique names and backgrounds. Moreover, this practice reinforces harmful stereotypes within the yaoi or BL genre and perpetuates rigid expectations for character behavior. It can also be seen as a form of cultural appropriation and can contribute to the fetishization of same-s** relationships. By using characters' names instead, we promote inclusivity, respect their individuality, and encourage a deeper understanding of their complexities and the narratives they inhabit.

It is essential to recognize that every individual's response to a traumatic event like sexual harassment or assault can differ greatly. Your expectation that ukes should always fight back disregards the complex psychological and emotional effects such situations can have on a person. It is insensitive to label them as weak based solely on their reaction in these circumstances.
While it is true that some yaoi works may contain similar storylines or tropes, it is unfair to claim that "each and every yaoi" follows the same formula. The genre, like any other, encompasses a wide range of stories and character dynamics. There are many yaoi works that explore diverse themes, character strengths, and complex relationships.
Your statement about ukes always needing a "knight in shining armor" oversimplifies the dynamics of yaoi relationships. It is important to remember that these stories are often fictional and aim to provide emotional and romantic fulfillment to their target audience. The presence of a protective seme character does not diminish the potential for character growth, development, or agency of the uke character. 
In conclusion, it is unfair to make sweeping judgments about an entire genre based on a limited understanding or exposure to a few works. Yaoi and BL encompass a diverse range of narratives and character portrayals, and it is essential to approach them with an open mind and consider the broader context of the stories being told.

@KJMLove also, I apologize if it comes off as if I'm personally attacking you, that is not at all what I'm trying to do. And I'm deeply sorry if there's any grammatical mistakes or confusion in my arguments as English is not my first language. Please let me know if there's anythingyou'd like me to clear up that you might be confused by:)