Idk about y'all but, disregarding any concerns about the ring, I stan a health approach to k!nk right now. It's usually depicted falsely as a s3x-only SA situation, but that is NOT the case here, so far. Some people limit their activities to the bedroom which is fine as long as it is agreed upon. But the lifestyle is not just bedroom activities. However, they discussed and agreed. So far, the Dom is very clear about his expectations. The pressure the sub here is feeling is internalized from his ignorance and inability to properly communicate this, so I admit the Dom should slow down and ensure understanding and stuff, but he's not a mind reader , to our knowledge lol. But there's even a contract, tho contracts are rare IRL. More of a verbal agreement. He established the importance of safe words or signs, and is checking in at every point possible and ensuring comfort and consent. He executes the scene, provides after care, and holds an actual discussion on how the scene went, what the sub thinks and feels and so on. The worst part is that the sub feels pressured when he shouldn't and the Dom is maintaining all of the weight of the agreement one-sidedly DUE to the ignorance.
If there's anything that would be better, it would be the sub communicating his confusion and ignorance to the Dom and the Dom either acting as a mentor/teacher OR informing the sub that it is best to educate oneself before practicing and ending the current s3x relationship.
Anyways, long story short, I love this so far.
