Comment by alibcan on thayko

@alibcan yeah about disciplining i agree it must be done afterall thats parenting your child but I dont agree with hiting your kid. At least I grew up never being hit by my parents of course I was punished for my actions many time but my parents never raised their hands at me. And I would like to believe I turned out really respectfull to the people around me. I think you can definelly discipline your child without needing to hit them. When I talked with my friends about this I notice some things ( but of course this is just my experience around the topic not saying this is a absolute truth) my friends that got hit when doing something bad actually developed some sort of bad coping mechanism or simply overwall didnt learn the lesson it just created either resentment or fear in their relationship w/ their parents and as we know this always spreads in different forms to other areas of our lives. So i dont know. I believe disciplining a child is more about teaching them educating them showing consequences but also making they think for themselves on what is right and wrong and explain in the best way you can until they understand... its hard extremelly hard it needs so much patience and it can definelly get stressfull to a point you just want to yell at your kid or take the easy turn when parenting but also parenting was never suposed to be easy if you chose to be one be responsible and raise your kid the best way.

btw the thing about oriental family hiting as discipline depending on the family it gets pretty abusive and disrespectful like slaping or belts and other instruments being used. My mother always told me that her mother used always her hands so she could feel the pain she was transmiting to control her strengh because when you use an object sometimes it can get out of control without you noticing it.