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Constellation ODCorporal·1 day ago(edited)

Guys I need help was I wrong to block someone without warning or talking about the issue ?
But first let me give you the context:
So it started last month during lunch time, a tall girl approached me to ask me something I though it was for questions about next year or whatever.. she started to read a poem about me (I gave you the translation in English):
Oh my sweetie, I was captivated by your beauty and your lovely red and white outfit. Your fabulous eyes stir my very soul. I love you madly—just as passionately as I love playing Genshin. Marry me.
Everyone was listening in silence, I should be graceful but no it’s weird. I feel my stomach twist, my mind blank I desperately search my friends eyes for help but h*l no they were too concentrated to listen her. Then the girl pointed to the person who sent me this, his name was ■■■ After that my friends and I left the canteen, he followed me 3 times with his group of friends. I didn’t confront him and even escape TT..Ik I was a coward I shouldn’t react like that but I feel too unwell to confront him + my friends keep teasing me it pissed me off so I hid in the bathroom.
After this day, we always see each other and each time this sensation come back, my friends teasing me about it (I don’t resent them I never told them how much it makes me discomfort they just laugh about this situation) Until the last day of school, he waited me to give me a letter (it's about an apology for discomfort me last time, it was a joke made by her friends and he genuinely wanted to know each other. He wrote his Instagram username so I can contact him.
Feeling guilty and refuse to live with regrets, I contacted him to at least apologize.. We spoke about the situation he said the first letter was made by her friend, I apologize and I said I’m not interested into relationships but if he genuinely wanted to be friend we could try.
During 3 day he’ll always contacts me, chatting even though I’ve exams, it was innocent I really considered him as a nice friend..I though he will stop having feelings and thinking he has no a chance but no I was a fool 🤡 He acted more bold saying “good night” everyday, saying “you’re really cute (my nickname) hahaha”then use an excuse “It was the night I was tired oops”, “It will be great to find a boyfriend/lover”, “being in love is great you can find the right person just like me”. He would post Insta’s notes relate to me (for example: a gif about a girl blushing, a note saying I’m so happy she’s so kind) and asking me if I go out to an event. I said for 3 times I wasn’t interested my life is great he could find someone nicer..but he kept doing it saying he can’t control his feelings..I continued to be friend with him bc he said he really wanted to be friend. So our conversation continue, slowly becoming boring, forced. He’ll search any topics without asking questions about my personal life, my opinions like he only loved a facade of myself without trying to know me (idk how to say).
It haunted me so much that I couldn’t concentrate for exams.
Finally he sent me a reel about missing me, my mind crashed I told him he makes me uncomfortable. He apologized and said he can’t control his feelings so I just warn him to be careful (I was already deciding if he stop I would continue our friendship otherwise I cut our relation) We tried to speak like usually but it was awkward. So we stopped the only thing he would sent is a good night every night It drove me crazy so I block him without warning. He quickly contacted me with his second account “You know, you can just talk about it instead of blocking .-. It's your choice, though” and wishing me good luck..I said I’m very sorry then I block.
Was I wrong? I don’t know I told to my close friends, one judge me another one said I don’t need to justify why I blocked him after all I told him I’m very discomfort towards him..and another blame me to not told him or even told her about the situation..

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8 Replies

@Constellation OD btw I forgot to mentioned ■■■ isn’t my type I’m not attracted to him
Bloom
BloomCommander·1 day ago
@Constellation OD after reading your situation I don't think that you really need to say anything to him, you had told him from the start that you did not like him and being friends would be fine. It was him that wanted to escalate things on his own. You don't really have to justify anything to him.
Miya
MiyaMain Character·1 day ago
@Constellation OD dont sweat it none og it was your fault!! he deserve from the moment him and his frnd pulled that prank that was so cheap like it was good you didn't liked him 🤷‍♀️everything was red flag from beginning so you did good!!
Klex
KlexCaptain·1 day ago
@Constellation OD well if you made it clear that you don't like him and he made you uncomfortable but he didn't stop you did a good job by blocking him . You didn't do anything wrong
doing nothing
doing nothingGeneral·1 day ago
@Constellation OD honestly it made me feel uncomforatble reading your situation you dont have to justify yourself dont talk him again as friend or he think he have chance it better to stay away from him he clearly doesnt understand boundaries
@Constellation OD bro you really don't need to justify because you told him that u feel uncomfortable with him but he is the one who can't control his feeling and this is called life you didn't need to think so much and you didn't did anything wrong so focus on the exam and do well . And English isn't my first language so there will be mistake
@hmmm Idk I just feel like I always need to justify In my life but now I read your comments it makes me remember I shouldn’t blame myself ty guys TT
Lunna
LunnaManga Newbie·21 hours ago
@Constellation OD I know how that feels and trust me blocking someone like tagt is the best decision , I was stuck in a similar situation for yrs bro cause we became good friends but I didn't like him back yet he was persistent even after hearing no multiple times it made me so uncomfy but yeah I was a kid back then so I don't judge myself or anythinng and I hope you don't either and the friend that judges you tell her the full story and if they still don't take your side tell them to f*k off🤷🏻‍♀️ and your not wrong lol you were kind enough to even give him a chance to talk as a friend he just wasn't tagt special so yeah not your fault for saying no or blocking cause you clearly stated you felt uncomfy 🫂 now go have fun and don't overthink❤️‍🩹🌧️