@Chamcham can you blame her. Imagine getting married at 9 years of age, and having the only person you could count on ( her nanny) die. Imagine how scary and lonely it would be. She started spending because, pretty things made her happy. I don't like her, but I don't blame her. Her husband should have found an adult who could take care of her, as a parent or nanny. He failed to do that. I doubt any of us will do well, if we got married at 9 to someone who constantly went to the battle field.