Comment by Aki Heiwajima on My Guildmate Next Door - Chapter 107

@Aki Heiwajima uhm... tell me you actually do know that would be sexual harrasment... tell me you know it pretty well!!

@Nickname Sexual harassment toward your own boyfriend ? Wow, just sue and send your boyfriend to jail then. " omg ive been assaulted by my boyfriend for sexual harassment " like, seriously? Look, we men dont think act like this as sexual harassment, we have our need. Well if in your case this count as sexual harassment, how petty can you get uh ? I repeat again, toward your own boyfriend ?? Smh smh.

@Aki Heiwajima

...You're making it worse and worse with every single word...

having a boyfriend, being in a relationship IS NOT CONSENT. You have to make sure you have their consent EVERY SINGLE TIME.

Especially if they1re pretending to sleep to AVOID S** WITH YOU.

@Nickname Making it worse ? No, it just you being petty. Besides in this case It's Lee Yeo woon we're talking about. Just how many times did he tease Jigu ? Did you even read the manhwa ?

@Aki Heiwajima

...yeah, making it worse WAY MORE stating that in a relationship harassment is not harassment anymore... (And can't tell he difference between teasing an awake and active guy who can reject if he wants vs a sleeping guy who can't - especially a pretender who, again, pretend EXACTLY to AVOID it.

 

Sooo yeah, i'm not just read it, i actually understand it, but here you are...

@Aki Heiwajima bro he is sleeping... Don't do things like that if the other person is sleeping! It doesn't matter if it's your boyfriend/girlfriend or not.

@Shadow I speak the way I speak because he is not sleeping. He know Jigu intention yet here he is pretend to sleep cuz he know Jigu won't go further. Thus why I said hes young. 

I speak with experience. I have been in Yeo woon place. So do I label my partner as sexual assault? No. Unless they forcefully attack me even if I said no, which is thankfully never happened this far then thats understandable. It's all mindset bro.

@Aki Heiwajima "we have our need" so that means you cant control urself? And it is harrasment and ra** if ur partner touches you in ur sleep and its clearly that yeowon was pretending to be asleep bcs he didnt want to do it and when you said to another comment that yeowon teases Jigu does not mean he wanted to do it and actually u were the one who isnt reading the manwha properly cus when they almost had s** but yeowon backed out bcs he was afraid of jigu's weapon so backing out means He didnt wanted to do it.

@Aki Heiwajima mindset? Ofc its not the same for all ppl in relationships. U agreed to ur partner to touch u in ur sleep but did yeowon have perm? No and if not then its sexual harrasment your the one who needs a new mindset

@Aki Heiwajima

...the fact you never even realized it _would be an assault_ even if you _were_ in his place tells everything we need to know the ra** culture around us.

It makes the VICTIMS thinks it's okay...

IT. IS. NOT. OKAY.

And it's nothing to do with age or teasing or anything.

If your partner doesn't give you consent for any reason, then you don't have consent. And no consent means you can't do sh**. It's really that simple.

 

(oc, "consent" not necessary means constant verbal validation, I mean, it's such a turn off when someone state every min what they'll do in the next min, like a doku commentary...  Actions are consent too, so, of course you can make your first move like hug your partner (and ONLY parner, not random people..:XD), kiss them or something, and if reciprocates, it is consent. but that's the key here - reciprocate.

So if you want to make a move on your sleeping partner (pretending or not), you abolutely can - but you WAKE THEM UP FIRST!! And you do it WITHOUT A SEXUALLY MOTIVATED ACT. Which means you can't just undress them!! (and no suck them, fingering them, or whatever, oc), but you can caress them (not on genitals...), maybe kiss them on the cheeks, shoulder, or whatever is your everyday, regural NON-SEXUAL affection method.