If that were the case , you could even say sungho used s** to manipulate dohyun. SH knew DH liked him like that but didnt want to lose him so literally seduced him. Then blamed him as if dh were 100%responsible just cause the relation fell apart regardless. If SH was a girl who went after a boy she didnt like just because she was obsessed.. no one would sympathize with her. Even without all that kidnapping and torture.