Dd dude...I made an account only because your comment almost made me crawl out of my skin. Are you for real? You're glossing over ra** like it's an itty bitty tiny little problem. I'd like to see you comment stupidity like that after it's happened to you. I agree that not communicating your real feelings and abandoning your partner without any explanation is very shi*** and it leaves a (perrmanant-ish) wound, but that, my dear, doesn't give you ANY FUC**** RIGHT to avange your broken little highschool heart by abusing and raping your long lost love. The fu** are you even trying to defend? So are you saying everyone you love deserves divine punishment if they don't love you back? Would it make it ok for you to just ra** the fu** out of your highchool crush, who was rude to you years ago for whatever reason? Or do you think your previous partner is somehow OBLIGED to have s** with you, just cuz you're hurt? Boo fuc**** hoo. And it's been 4 years... Would you be plotting a revenge for so long (whoever answers yes: get help NOW!!! )? And for what? What does he owe him? He's been fending for himself for almost all his life, stuck in survival mode, and then there comes a guy who has absolutely zero tolerance and understanding for your way of living and is pushing, pushing, pushing until you finally give in. You're saying love is all about communicating and sharing your goods and bads, but you forgot a MAJOR part in every relationship ever and it*s called BOUNDARIES!! Seme took all the possible chances to tremple on ukes boundaries, I would never in my life wanna date someone so disrespectful and not understanding. Nothing about the seme's pursuit was romantic, but very obsessive. My g**, it's scary to think what people would be capable of doing irl after reading some of the comments here. And dude, either you're still young and got some major growing up to do or you need serious help, so I advise you to rather occupy your thoughts with that.