@Gay kids I see where you're coming from, but I think we need to separate the concepts of trauma healing and healthy relationships? i can agree with you that Chiwoo might need space to heal, the idea that being with someone like Blondie (who might not be treating him well) is a good way for Chiwoo to recognize manipulation and gaslighting is problematic.
If Chiwoo is already in a relationship where he feels gaslit or manipulated, that’s not the right environment for HIM or healing, even if he might eventually learn to recognize those signs, It's much more likely that continued exposure to these toxic dynamics would worsen his mental health and make it even harder for him to heal from past trauma so he really shouldnt be with the blondie i dont see the hype.
In terms of Blondie, while you might not see the behaviors as abusive, it's important to look at the overall dynamics of the relationship?? Manipulation doesn’t always have to be overt; it can also involve emotional coercion, boundary-pushing, or even subtle forms of control. The way Blondie treats Chiwoo may not seem like abuse, but if Chiwoo is not being respected or if his feelings are being invalidated, that's still a form of harm, hes using his feelings against him!!
Lastly, I agree with you that Chiwoo might need time alone to heal, rather than jumping into another relationship right away Both options (Blondie and the Black dude) seem to have elements that could continue the cycle of toxicity, and Chiwoo deserves space to figure out what he really needs and wants in a relationship without that pressure, yeah ill agree with you because they both are toxic but imo, chiwoo shouldnt date NEITHER of them, i dont see the hype.