im gonna do my best to help you here bc idk how old you are or your situation outside of this- for refference im in my last year of highschool and currently have a friend i dont want to be around anymore but it would be too much of a hassle to brake it off when im almost done with highschool
ok my immediate advice is she is not your friend, friends do not put romatic relationships in front of their friends end of kf story. No matter what else she may do or say, the fact that she does that is a sign of immaturity and insecurity which isnt something you can "fix". People like this are not worth wasting your time on and genuinely if you are able to, get her out of your life bc she does not value you as a friend or a person at all. Secondly the way she treats you and your other friend is cruel, joking around is fine within reason but knowing the differerence between friendly banter and bullying is important. My current friend who im struggling to be around constantly puts me down and its not good for my mental health, i second guess everything i say and predict what she will say to avoid answers that belittle me and its made me a defensive person. Getting away from people like this when possible is the best thing you can do and focusing on more positive relationships will do you so much more good at any stage in your life.
TLDR: she stinks dump her
i hope you and your other friend are able to sort something out even if you ignore everything a stranger like me in a yaoi manhwa said. Have a great day :)
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