@hehaiswhaha Garam simply isn't ready and shouldn't be forced. His fears are real and JH doesn't share those fears so they are at an impass. Garam is sorting out his feelings. He isn't toxic he's struggling. He isn't a bad person. Look at all he's endured to this point. He's strong and resilient but he's hit a block. Garam already dealt with JH's parents not long go. Should he have to endure the friends as well? Did JH even discuss coming out with Garam? A plan? A timeline? Support? JH is amazing because he's so audacious and confident. He gives zero fu*** but Garam cares about appearance and reputation. It's a very real issue for some gay couples whether to come out or not. No one should be forced too and neither should they be forced to wait for a partner to publicly acknowledge the relationship. That's the impasse here. Garam understands their differences and doesn't feel like he can move past it. Hence leaving to get space. Not giving the ring. If commitment means coming out he must be ready to that or walk away from the relationship for both their sakes. Not toxic at all just vulnerable and human.