Comment by TeamLeewon on Crossing the Line - Chapter 114

Comment on ChapterCrossing the Line - Chapter 114

My heart breaks for Garam. He's truly had to struggle on his own for so long. Betrayed by his first love, shamed and rejected by his mother (the absolute cruelty of rather being dead than having a gay son -disgusting), bad dates and a homophobic roommate/ fu** buddy, an ex that ruined his life forcing his way back into it. That same ex injuring his boyfriend. Finally accepting and trusting his roommate now bf?! It's been so difficult for Garam and yet he's achieved a lot by himself, University, self acceptance, friendships. Jaehyuk hasn't experienced any of that so it's hard for him to empathize and hard for Garam to explain in a way that JH would understand. Garam needs some time and they need to find a comprise. Garam can't be expected to just go along with whatever Jaehyuk wants when G is still processing his experience with coming out and how awful it was. Being rejected by people you love and betrayed just for being gay hurts deeply. Y'all need to be kinder to Garam. He's going through it. He'll come around eventually. He just needs to sort through his feelings. He genuinely loves JH and wants what's best for him, for both of them.

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hehaiswhahaMember·about 1 month ago

@TeamLeewon yeah him acting like a damsel in distress and putting himself on a high moral compass and then calling Jh childish instead of explaining how he feels is surely a good start to 'come around'.

TeamLeewonMember·about 1 month ago

@hehaiswhaha but JH does behave impulsively and irresponsibly often which is childish. Garam has already communicated his (actual legitimate) trauma and anyone expecting him to just get over it is being unreasonable. Prior to this JH has never had a male lover and was highly homophobic why wouldn't Garam still have reservations? His own parent didn't accept him. JH's parents didn't accept him or the relationship. JH's mom basically assumed it was another of JH's tantrums and said so. Garam is scared. It doesn't mean JH is wrong. But neither is Garam. He just has some sh** to figure out. He loves JH and is terrified of losing him or being the cause of harm. I adore them both.

hehaiswhahaMember·about 1 month ago

@TeamLeewon re we deadass calling jh childish when he literally is trying to work on their relationship while garam was wanking off of on his bed when they were not even dating? garam being scared doesnt mean he should get a free pass to hurt his significant other sure his trauma is justified but his actions are not. Garam is in the wrong here becuase he could have texted or even written a note. To best explain it skylar a character from lost in the cloud is an example. He talked it out. Garam is constantly shutting down jh which is extremely toxic and he is becoming like his ex. A person with no reliability and moving when it benefits and keeps him in his comfort zone

TeamLeewonMember·about 1 month ago

@hehaiswhaha Garam simply isn't ready and shouldn't be forced. His fears are real and JH doesn't share those fears so they are at an impass. Garam is sorting out his feelings. He isn't toxic he's struggling. He isn't a bad person. Look at all he's endured to this point. He's strong and resilient but he's hit a block. Garam already dealt with JH's parents not long go. Should he have to endure the friends as well? Did JH even discuss coming out with Garam? A plan? A timeline? Support? JH is amazing because he's so audacious and confident. He gives zero fu*** but Garam cares about appearance and reputation. It's a very real issue for some gay couples whether to come out or not. No one should be forced too and neither should they be forced to wait for a partner to publicly acknowledge the relationship. That's the impasse here. Garam understands their differences and doesn't feel like he can move past it. Hence leaving to get space. Not giving the ring. If commitment means coming out he must be ready to that or walk away from the relationship for both their sakes. Not toxic at all just vulnerable and human.

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