Comment by didi on Wet Sand - Chapter 69

I don’t get why people keep fighting between Jo and Tj when clearly none of them is good.

They are both controlling, clinging into Ian need of someone to make him feel less lonely. Their intentions are good my non THAT good.

Jo wants to help Ian leave the organisation (which is something he always wanted to) BUT he’s doing that by always keeping him around and under control.

Tj on the other way (and in my opinion) took advantage of Ian addiction and his frustration on being in the organisation. Also in this chapter we can see that he use is scar as a way to make Ian indebted to him. Plus he make sure to always remind Ian of his past.

Tj isn’t good for him because he will never leave the organisation, putting Ian always in danger. Jo isn’t good either because he will never let Ian truly free because of his lack of confidence and trust.

Honestly if I have to choose I’m going to say Jo: better someone who controls me “making sure” that I’m safe than someone who put me in danger.

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Dannie3 ·1 year ago

@didi

Are you serious? TJ thinks he was taking advantage of Ian's guilt, but in fact, he didn't force it on him or blame him for anything. TJ was the only one who stayed by his side, helped him overcome his drug addiction, and protected him all this time, just like Ian said.

And how is Jo better? He started criticizing Ian's lifestyle from the very beginning, manipulated the situation with broken fingers, intentionally prevented him from meeting TJ, raped him when he lost consciousness, marked him as his own without getting his consent, lied to him that nothing happened.

I hate love triangle·1 year ago

@Dannie3 preach pepe sticker

But for real it's still bothers me how people think that Jo is a green flag, like boy is toxic he's just too manipulative and I've never liked him ever since that time he prevented TJ from meeting up with Ian 😭😭😭😭and the fact that TJ this time has allowed to let go of Ian just proves how much he actually loves him 🥹🥹🥹 and he's willing to let him go like they say..... "if you love something you have to let it go and if it comes back then it's truly yours or it was meant to be".

Dannie3·1 year ago

@I hate love triangle That's right, Jo is just good at manipulating and playing the innocent guy. He doesn't feel any remorse for everything he did behind Ian's back. Is it really a green flag for a man to deliberately take advantage of his partner's unconsciousness to violate his body and mark him as a thing knowing about his feelings for another man? I just don't understand how people can be so blind as to not notice all this...

ByteMe·1 year ago

@I hate love triangle Aahh you're funny. I was told this by a good friend, a long time ago, " If you love someone, set them free. If they don't come back, you go hunt them down!". I like mine better 🤣🤣

didi·1 year ago

@Dannie3 I expressed my opinion on who I will choose. You think Tj is the better choice, great.

But at this point I dislike TJ, Jo and Ian too.

Besides that I said Jo isn’t good due to this controlling nature. Tj isn’t good either because he took so much time accepting Ian choices. And Jesus Ian is with Jo because he doesn’t want to be alone and it’s the “safe” choice.

And by “safe” I don’t mean he is good but in Ian’s mind he is because he is unaware of so many things.
I’m 100% sure the author will never bring anything of the things Jo did but putting them aside like nothing happened, just because this is what happen in every yaoi.

And what I found incredibly funny is fighting and talking about good and bad reading those storylines. I can give you a list if you what examples.

didi·1 year ago

@I hate love triangle By letting him go do you mean the time Tj payed Jo to leave Ian alone because he didn’t like the fact that Ian could leave him for Jo.

Or you are talking about the time he bought a house hoping that one day, when things are settle, they can start over and be a happy family?

We can agree by saying neither Jo or Tj are green flags. Don’t you think so?

hakuna matata·1 year ago

@didi they really hated you on here, look at those downvotes. Christ.

didi·1 year ago

@hakuna matata I'm not looking for approval HAHAHAHAH If people don't like what I said they are free to downvote me

hakuna matata·1 year ago

@didi gurl i love that for you, the more you give them facts the more they bite when the same argument that jo rapes ian or TJ let go ian because loves BS

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