Comment by phatputhycat on MaryJane

  Like I mentioned before, Tj and Ian's relationship is made out of history, trauma , sacrifices , love and emotional manipulation. I haven't said Tj wasn't there for Ian. Thing is , y'all seem to forget the past chapters where Tj is the reason Ian went to prison in order to keep him from leaving the organization, the motorcycle scene that prevented Ian from leaving him, Tj wanting to possess him without actually defining their relationship, and Tj wanting  to pull him back in the dark world despite Ian's desire to leave. Their love isn’t the pure thing y’all try to make it be. It’s only a trauma bond which is made out of attachment from history, instability and great s***ual chemistry. Joe's entrance to Ian's world was a man reacting like any other individual who's never been personally involved in the darker sides of life ; trauma , murder,  promiscuity or drugs. He judged Ian because he hadn't lived his world . He didn't understand that world and he wasn't imposing his own world view, that was the author , introducing the difference in Joe's world. The "normalcy" if you will . A life with both parents, no trauma, no struggle with poverty , and typical going to college .This doesn't mean Joe is perfect for Ian, it means he is a different experience from Ian's norm therefore the approach is bound to be different . Tj has lived Ian's world but that doesn't mean that they are meant to be together just because they understand where and what they've been through . They're literally each others traumas in a cycle. Codependency, attachment, instability, longing, desperation . This isn't healthy even if it looks hot .