Comment by TeamLeewon on Beyond Memories - Chapter 103

@TeamLeewon i get where you are coming from but like from sejin's view point i think he doesn't know how to express his emotions well because all his childhood he was never allowed to be greedy or selfish causing him to be the way he and the things you start doing from childhood till adulthood are engraved in you and are really hard to change so i don't think that this arc was useless as it shows how slowly but steadly sejin is learning how to express himself better and to figure out what he wants. This arc shows sejin's character development rather than kwon ido getting him back.

@desperate 4607 True enough. At some point I even wondered whether Sejin was capable of showing and giving love. He craved so much for love he looked like an empty vase. And he has such a peculiar way to tell what he wants. In short, what he wants is for Ido to tell him what he (Sejin) wants to hear! Furthermore, what's with all this speech about what Ido should have said and done? I won't judge but it was unexpected and out of place. You can see the contrast between both approaches. Ido's approach was entirely centered on Sejin, whereas Sejin's is centered on himself. Meaning, Sejin is not ready to give and still has a long way to go. Maybe I am wrong but the way he brushed off Ido's suffering like some child's tantrum demonstrates a total lack of warmth and empathy. Such disregard is shocking towards the man who gave him so much and gifted him with something really priceless. I truly expect further progress and that Sejin will realise and aknowledge the lengths Ido went to for him.

@Lan Anh Nguyen what you said is right that he treat Kwon Ido's suffering as a tantrum but in my opinion i think that he was really dissappointed because kwon ido had given him all he ever wanted but then once his memories of past life came back he left him saying that he can be independent but at that point Ido was the only thing that sejin had which made him feel betrayed. And Ido had not even given him the choice that he can stay with him after apologizing which probably made him feel that this like Ido used this new life to redeem himself for past life for his own satisfaction and not for sejin. And in my opinion this all made sejin not believe Kwon ido's suffering or acknowledge it and becoming confused about it.

@desperate 4607 Sejin is on his third life. 3 lives, 3 memories, 3 different perspectives. He's had time and the opportunity to understand and process all that has happened including his own actions. This arc would have made sense if Sejin decided to leave Ido and start a new life of independence and to explore himself and his wants. I would have supported that choice. Considering that Ido was always end game the author could have done better for Sejin. He needs to speak up for himself, to share his thoughts and feelings. The first life path ended in absolute misery. He's never really expressed that to Ido. He hasn't talked about the impact or anything. Ido did the best he could to make amends (if that's even possible) and still no real feedback from Sejin. I understand where Sejin is coming from but we're on the 3rd life path. What has even learned? Has he even changed? Has he tried something different? I like him but this doesn't feel like reconciliation.

@Lan Anh Nguyen Sejin lives internally. He thinks and processes and considers but rarely does any of that get spoken out loud or shared with anyone. It's his greatest flaw. In all the timelines. I don't think he's selfish so much as self centered (if that makes sense) due to how he was abandoned and raised by his adoptive family. Survival meant silence, obedience and minimizing. The only reliable person was himself. But by the third life and seeing how everything went wrong why can't he say something? It's driving me crazy. He must understand that his silence and obedience contributed to past misunderstandings and robbed him of an opportunity for happiness and freedom from his shi*** family. I'm not one for shouting about communication but Sejin surely needs to learn to use his words properly. His internal dialog is wise and caring but his ability to speak remains stunted and weak.

@TeamLeewon So i just read the next chapter and it does show what sejin was doing while being seperated from Ido and he did express himself then and yea i agree that author could've done better or sejin like for author i get intention where they wanted but i don't think they were able to express it properly in manhwa and i haven't read the novel so idk. But as you can see sejin has changed and is being forward about what he wants.

@desperate 4607 He had already changed when he called off their engagement. He had a really hard time processing the return of his lost memories because it was such a traumatism. His reaction in the current chapter caught me totally off guard as to how it did not match the extent of Ido's dedication. I had a little argument with another reader on another platform, and this person was really angry at Sejin because he kept dragging things on unnecessarily. Was it hesitation? Was it actual numbness? Anyway the argument was about me expecting Ido to be a mind reader which was absolutely not the case. Turns out this chapter revealed Sejin wanted Ido to read his mind ! I don't know if I did interpret well but it was my impression of the flow of things. Still I am so glad with how the events turned out, I was so scared that we'd be back to the old misunderstanding again. Ido's expression of complete surprise was like a weight was suddenly lifted off. So many things were going on behind this expression. My first thought was "Papa eagle Ido did a really good job" (will explain someday). I really enjoyed reading the next chapter. Both characters are really great and the shift of energy from one to the other was really well done