Dude he isn't doing anything inexcusable he already showed that he was not like others who can say I like/love you on a whim . Honestly when I first started reading i felt his perspectives really refreshing and i think he can justify his actions . In real life too people who have trauma are difficult they require help they require someone to fight for them . I think it completely depend on the person who want to stand by their side . And even if somebody chooses not to its understandable .