I know I'm getting all the fuc**** downvotes for this, but idc ok. My empathy for Sieon has long since dried tf up. He has done THE SAME fuc**** thing to SO MANY PEOPLE. And it's not like he's young(ish) and doesn't know better. He's not just a di**, bro, he's fuc**** stupid. A whole societal hazard. Get tf over yourself, man, you are GROWN as all he11 and you out here on that childish self delusion sh**? Everyone has traumas, Sieon, especially the people you hurt.
Tired.
Also, because as someone who had debilitating childhood trauma who HAS gone to their therapist for decades, trauma makes mistakes understandable. NOT excusable. Just because something bad happened to you doesn't give you the right to be the "something bad" in someone else's lives.
Empathy from others doesn't make you invincible against consequences.
preach
All these people? It's been 3 relationships that we've seen and one of them begun in high school. I don't see this glaring "something bad" that Si-Eon is perpetuating in all his relationships? He gives his partner free rein to choose, moreover his relationship with Namwoo began transactionally. In a relationship Si-Eon is only responsible for HIS own feelings, and he was very clear what was possible for him and what wasn't. That Namwoo chose to proceed anyways was entirely up to him, that being said however, it's unfortunate that they ended up not being on the same page. He's not lying about being in love when he's not (he learned from the high school ex) Growth isn't linear clearly, but he's not some fuckboy jumping from partner to partner leaving trauma in his wake either. His female ex is clearly capable of functioning in a romantic relationship after him, so really... Where is the debilitating "something bad" he's inexcusable of?
Dude he isn't doing anything inexcusable he already showed that he was not like others who can say I like/love you on a whim . Honestly when I first started reading i felt his perspectives really refreshing and i think he can justify his actions . In real life too people who have trauma are difficult they require help they require someone to fight for them . I think it completely depend on the person who want to stand by their side . And even if somebody chooses not to its understandable .
For many people their trauma hit them differently and they act on them different from others. I'm sure he could've found his old self a better train or thought, but he simply ignored is chosed what was easiest to help him cope with it. That's just my opinion, as a child your first role models are your parents(whoever is raising you). When his mom said she loved him then left him that probably sparked a total different meaning to how he viewed love. Then as he noticed his mom started publishing books Sieon felt when she left him she was more happy because she was finally doing her dream.. & getting through without him. Sieon might feel if he leave those he " Love," they would finally be happy because that was shown to him. Not everyone can define love truly if they haven't encountered/ been involved in it fully.