Jae is acting out of desperation. The same behaviour we see when he realized he actually loved Garam and tried to win him over, the same behaviour when he realized Garam was moving out and Jae leased the apartment. Jae is an emotional person- he reacts and is shameless. Garam is analytical and an overthinker. He moves slowly and deliberately. These opposing approaches cause these difficulties in solving their problems together. Jae is stubborn and certain. Garam is stubborn and uncertain. Jae is doing whatever he can think of to keep Garam and he's terrified that if Garam speaks it will to be to end their relationship. So he's just spouting nonsense. Sadly it's the very opposite of what Garam needs to hear. It's sad because they do want the same thing but can't quite figure out how. There's no bad guy here, no need to blame and pick sides. They'll work it out.
Comment by TeamLeewon on Crossing the Line - Chapter 117
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@TeamLeewon What makes you think Garam is analytical? His moving "slowly and deliberately" as you put it, I see rather as afraid and insecure.
Jaehyuk is "spouting nonsense" not because he is afraid of Garam ending their relationship: Garam already ended their relationship by not reacting in any way to lift Jaehyuk's doubts concerning the future of their relationship. Jaehyuk tries to help Garam with his insecurities.
What does Garam need to hear, in your understanding please?
I do get it that we all see the whole situation in a different way. That's probably all it is to it.
Jaehyuk is "spouting nonsense" not because he is afraid of Garam ending their relationship: Garam already ended their relationship by not reacting in any way to lift Jaehyuk's doubts concerning the future of their relationship. Jaehyuk tries to help Garam with his insecurities.
What does Garam need to hear, in your understanding please?
I do get it that we all see the whole situation in a different way. That's probably all it is to it.
@TeamLeewon FYI: "Being analytical refers to the ability to break down complex problems or situations into smaller, manageable parts to better understand their structure and relationships. It involves applying a logical, critical, and methodical thought process to assess information, identify root causes, and make decisions based on facts and data rather than intuition or emotion."
Guess this attribute is false to apply to Garam. The usual field to apply such attributes is e.g. research. In this webtoon we have a relationship.
Guess this attribute is false to apply to Garam. The usual field to apply such attributes is e.g. research. In this webtoon we have a relationship.
@Tetiana you're absolutely right. Analytical is the wrong word choice. I should have gone with cautious or guarded because he is insecure. I can't blame him though. His experience so far makes his insecurities very real. What Garam needs to hear from Jaehyuk is thoughtfulnes and understanding not another chaotic scheme. Jaehyuk can provide reassurance. Demonstrate that he sees Garam's fears and that they can take their time coming out as a couple. Jaehyuk started as a homophobic fu** boy absolutely unserious and irresponsible. Then announces he's gay and now he's not. He's often caught up in the moment and says or does whatever. Why would someone as cautious and anxious as Garam trust that Jaehyuk could be discreet or understand the real cost of coming out? I mean Jae's whole approach here is to come full circle to fu** buddies. He isn't even giving Garam a chance to step up and take responsibility. Jae isn't giving Garam space to figure out his sh** and come to Jae and be accountable. Because he's afraid that Garam won't come to him. Jaehyuk has always been insecure about Garam's feelings and that Garam doesn't return his affection equally. They are always at odds because their fears don't align and they don't know how to to meet each other in the middle. I think Jae should have let Garam alone. I think Garam would return to Jae because he's genuinely inlove with him.
@TeamLeewon I agree on leaving Garam alone as a better choice of action for Jaehyuk, and probably in general when two people in a relationship have different views on living in the closet vs. coming out. This wouldn't suit Jaehyuk's character, though: he plunges in every situation fully straightforward, stepping aside is not an option for him if he wants smth dearly. Extreems meet, as they say. Garam might be a total opposite to Jaehyuk as far as their characters are concerned, buy maybe that's the most effective way to help Garam cope with his anxieties: left alone, he'd probably calm down somewhat, but I doubt he'd deal his fears on his own. He's very insecure. And stubborn as he thinks Jaehyuk's coming out might be a bother to him as well. Garam doesn't seem to check that other people might not care at all about all this. So here he consciously keeps to his insecurities.
Sure, the author will find the way to put everything right, and I think that's the right choice to put Garam through Jaehyuk's "foolishness". He needs to see another side to being gay - when others don't care how you live your life, that is.
Sure, the author will find the way to put everything right, and I think that's the right choice to put Garam through Jaehyuk's "foolishness". He needs to see another side to being gay - when others don't care how you live your life, that is.
@Tetiana I like that idea. Perhaps the author is setting up Garam to learn to trust and have a bit of faith. Jaehyuk is a devoted and dedicated partner. Garam needs to trust that and have a little faith in himself and others. I feel terrible for both of them. I wish Garam would take a leap and really embrace Jaehyuk. I hope he does soon.