Comment by BL is addictive on Negative Love - Chapter 53

@BL is addictive see it as more of an explanation for him being the way he is, but defo not an excuse, no matter his backstory, it doesn't excuse his actions. So I lowkey agree bc some authors will just try to make u feel pity😭

@BL is addictive but the back story isn't a excuse for his action, its its a explanation for his trashy personality. He’s always been starved for love and attention, and though he’s grown up, he’s still that same child craving what he never had. That’s where his obsession comes from. He is quite simply a child, he knows nothing. He was never taught to value himself or others—and while that's how a personality is built, it doesn't excuse his actions. He could have learned in many ways. Some people grow up in abusive environments and don't become abusers, while others do; it varies from person to person. He could have chosen a better path or decided to change, but he didn't. It’s not his past’s fault; it’s his
Pain is a universal experience; what defines character is the choice to either break the cycle or replicate it. If he had access to other perspectives and still chose to stay in the role of victim or aggressor, then that was a conscious choice.

He thinks he’s the victim when he’s actually the aggressor. He was a victim in the past, but now he's just thinking it as an excuse.