@Su Da Ji Hey, just wanted to say that I think you misunderstood the OP's comment. I believe what they meant with bisexuality being cooler was that it was cooler than being heterosexual like they are. I understand how you might have thought that they were saying it was cooler than lesbianism though as their language is not very clear in their meaning. Overall, I believe that your rightful anger to system that puts white cis heterosexual men at the top is wrongfully pointed at the OP. Take it from a fellow qu*** (lol), I believe that this person is well meaning and that this whole comment chain could have been avoided by simply asking them to clarify what they meant by "bisexuality being cooler". Anyway, love you queenie, keep fighting <3.
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@Tigerlily person who commented on op wasn't really saying it's wrong of them to say that being bi is cooler than lesbian, but that their opinion in general is unneeded as a person who is not apart of the qu*** minority. Having to include your outside opinion simply because you want to when it's completely unrelated to you and your experiences simply because you feel like it is insensitive. It's even more so unnecessary for a straight man to comment on bisexual women or lesbians. It's like a straight man telling you what a lesbian should be defined by in a more serious case, it's not something they are able to judge or really have an opinion on. They're also pointing out the fact that straight men will find any way to include themselves in spaces where they are not wanted if it feels like something is not centered around themselves. Because of an already patriarchal society, they are used to always being included or the center of attention, which is why lesbians who aren't male centered will get all the more sh** for it. Men who see two lesbians and immediately comment on it being hot? It's because they imagine it as something done for them rather than an act between two people for themselves