Comment by Loejiff on Dayum

@Loejiff
Yeah, but therapist are not here just to learn about science and logic, and there not some truma dumpsite as well(or I think) , but like sometime you need some to listen, because how can you heal if you don't share, therapist are hear to listen, give advice, and help you improve and heal from what you've be through.

Yeah I get it, having inner conflict, or any conflict is troubling enough, especially when you make a decision, but you know you gotta take a deep breath, relax yourself and calm down, so you can think clearly on what you wanna do. The other person, or your inner thoughts may sometimes be very loud, and you start to have doubts and fears, but always remember that you are in control, you need to be in control, because if you keep listen to your inner voice conflicting your mind, you won't feel satisfaction, your doubt will only grow and lose so much of you mental health and self confidence. So yeah take a deep breath, do what you NEED to do, also another thing that I find helpful doing is when facing a problem make a list or a check list to keep on track what you need to do, set a specific goal and what time you want it to be done or not, (but what ever your preference is) because doing a task list is really good to not struggle on overthinking everything. 

(I should also probably add, is whenever facing a problem do these steps:

1. Identify the problem
2. Set a goal and what do you want your outcome to become
3. Think of a way on how to solve it
4. Do it
5. If it doesn't work try again

[Failure isn't bad, it just teaches you on what to do and avoid, and what can you do to make it better. ]) 

On the relationship part, it's really up to you. But I agree before entering a relationship you need to be ready, don't push yourself to hard, and give yourself a time to heal❤

And your welcome!!!

@Loejiff  

Just looked up what therapist do and here is what came up

[Therapists are professionals who help people manage difficult emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. They listen, provide support, and teach healthy coping skills. Some therapists help with everyday problems like stress or relationships, while others assist with bigger challenges like anxiety or depression, sometimes using specific methods to change negative thoughts. They can also help families and couples improve communication or guide people in changing certain behaviors, like overcoming fears or breaking bad habits. Overall, therapists work to help people feel better and handle life’s ups and downs in healthier ways.]