Comment by Loejiff on Crossing the Line - Chapter 69

@Loejiff yeah I get your point but I think both are at fault, even though Garam agreed to be with Jaehyuk, but his also not communicating well with him, yes I get that for some it's already a struggle to be with someone, but if you truly love the that at least try to communicate with someone or talk to a therapist, because bottling your emotions from past experiences can really damage what happening in the present and only hurt you in the long run... That's why sometimes you gotta let go, and talk to each other even tho it may be though it will be for the better

On the other hand I total agree with what Jaehyuk is feeling, it's frustrating to maintain your relationship if your significant other is not reciprocatating you're feelings, it hurts too you know, (because I've been there before too)... 
But sometimes you just gotta clear your head talk to your significant other and give each other time or space if needed and also communicate cuz that's really important too, and just wait cuz you can both heal with time ❤

(Sorry if that was too long, cuz I got nothing better to do lol) 

(Sorry to if some sentences seems of hehehehe but I hope you get my point)

@Dayum totally agree with you esp on jaehyuks part. in brief it's a pride matter ngl  
actually, what you said opened a way new route to me, kinda shiny. 
to me personally therapists are not some emotional douch bags, but a key to learn what science and logic applies on human actions and all typs of analysis behind them as im not and will never be well acknowledged enough (idk why i turned nerdy ;-;) 

what im tryna say anyways is the other person and me person always have a inner fight all the time leading to feeling puzzled and stressed for not knowing the next step (which who knows what change it will cause ) while im not referring to partner but any relationship in general. thus prefer to act like what the past tells me to, in fear of enduring any kind of pain.

who knows 🤔 i never experienced a love relationship cuz erm.. never dated lol and am ok with it till i find the inner peace or heal as you mentioned
thanks for helping and for reading my comment ♡

@Loejiff
Yeah, but therapist are not here just to learn about science and logic, and there not some truma dumpsite as well(or I think) , but like sometime you need some to listen, because how can you heal if you don't share, therapist are hear to listen, give advice, and help you improve and heal from what you've be through.

Yeah I get it, having inner conflict, or any conflict is troubling enough, especially when you make a decision, but you know you gotta take a deep breath, relax yourself and calm down, so you can think clearly on what you wanna do. The other person, or your inner thoughts may sometimes be very loud, and you start to have doubts and fears, but always remember that you are in control, you need to be in control, because if you keep listen to your inner voice conflicting your mind, you won't feel satisfaction, your doubt will only grow and lose so much of you mental health and self confidence. So yeah take a deep breath, do what you NEED to do, also another thing that I find helpful doing is when facing a problem make a list or a check list to keep on track what you need to do, set a specific goal and what time you want it to be done or not, (but what ever your preference is) because doing a task list is really good to not struggle on overthinking everything. 

(I should also probably add, is whenever facing a problem do these steps:

1. Identify the problem
2. Set a goal and what do you want your outcome to become
3. Think of a way on how to solve it
4. Do it
5. If it doesn't work try again

[Failure isn't bad, it just teaches you on what to do and avoid, and what can you do to make it better. ]) 

On the relationship part, it's really up to you. But I agree before entering a relationship you need to be ready, don't push yourself to hard, and give yourself a time to heal❤

And your welcome!!!

@Loejiff  

Just looked up what therapist do and here is what came up

[Therapists are professionals who help people manage difficult emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. They listen, provide support, and teach healthy coping skills. Some therapists help with everyday problems like stress or relationships, while others assist with bigger challenges like anxiety or depression, sometimes using specific methods to change negative thoughts. They can also help families and couples improve communication or guide people in changing certain behaviors, like overcoming fears or breaking bad habits. Overall, therapists work to help people feel better and handle life’s ups and downs in healthier ways.]

@Loejiff exactly...it's soo hard moving from past...they have great impact in the present even you try to adjust again the feeling of being alone... and losing someone close to you makes you even more worse to show that affection