@The girl whose a nerd I gotta agree with Hisoka on this one. Although he was half joking and you might be right about everything you just said, good s** from your loving partner can really lower the "volume" on issues that would normally cause a person to flinch and react. It's not a cure-all panacea but when it's done right it can be more effective than any other single variable in solving inter-family problems.