Comment by Born to slay on After a Meal - Chapter 18

@Born to slay It’s completely normal to be attracted to older men, especially at 19. You might be drawn to their maturity, confidence, emotional depth, or that strict, masculine energy that younger guys often don’t have yet. That dream abt ur dads friend who gives off those "manly" Henry Cavill vibes is just your brain processing those attractions in a safe, symbolic way. It doesn’t mean you actually want something to happen, especially if he’s off-limits like a zaddy or a friend’s parent. Crushes like this can feel intense and confusing, but as long as you respect boundaries in real life, there’s nothing wrong with your feelings. You're just learning what kind of energy attracts you, and that’s totally okay.
or u have zaddy issues

@Luna DEFINITELY

@Luna Owemji 
Thank you for your response 😍
You explained it very nicely, detailed and crystal clear.
You're right, maybe I have daddy issue
My father don't spend time with me, he's mostly at work(weeks sometimes months he's away from home)and he's also not expressive.
 
😢And my previous crushes were my professor and home tutor(age around 35-40yrs)and the fact that they have kids and wife made me so worried that maybe I'm not normal.
I feel a sense of  safety,secure and different kind of happiness when I'm around older men.
I succeeded in not thinking about them😢and then i met my friend's dad who just like my type(Henry Cavill).And after that dream I can't stop thinking about him(I'm so desperate for his affection).

And thank you I'm much aware now what's happening with me
One of which that it's my solitary and deprived of affection, security made me go like this

@Born to slay it's normal to like them .but a different thing entirely if you want to be a home wrecker
you go girl

@Born to slay just adding but!!! please dont accept any sort of advances from these older guys!! its perfectly okay to simply crush on them but if they themselves come to you then theyre being plain predatory, even if youre considered to be an adult (over 18) the age gap is too huge and you guys are in completely different stages of life... again to add, nothing is wrong with these fantasies as long you dont overstep any boundaries irl :)

@Born to slay It is very normal to have crushes to guys older than you but remember to not take it into reality, like a lot of things with fantasy it is nice to daydream but terrible if they happen for real. I got crushes on older guys at your age too and I'm 32 now and I know for a fact that only predators go for younger women. So yeah nice to daydream but only that

@yomi thank you for your advice I'll be careful😘
I should probably try to date boys my age(never dated anyone before)
And I'm an absolute overthinker.

@Yo Yea you're right
But thank you big sister 🥰
I'll keep that in mind

@hi  

😭 Girl Sometimes I fantasize about him to much that i completely forget he have a wife and a daughter(my friend)