Comment by Cocoa on PrivateMe

@Cocoa  it is their strategy tbh. Before the dude i told u about i had a bf and we were together for 4 1/2 years. He was quite the jealous type but i did not mind thinking that was his way of showing love. Fast forward to last year where i had to move to brussels for studies adn he went to italy to work and he literally started another relationship with a girl there WHILE acting jealous with me. I talked to him about breaking up cuz i had a bad feeling about everything and his werid behaviour but he still denied everything and acted like he loved me. So yeah it is their tactic. They have the "one" who is like the main girl they are in a relationship in and the other girl is like a side one anytime he wants to.. they go back to main one cuz yeah they r sick psychos

@Cocoa of course he does sh** like that, but it's not because it's you, again, he just wants you as an option! You're not even 'the girl he told her not to worry about' nor 'the other woman', you're just someone else. 

I'm not trying to hurt your feelings and I apologize if I do, but you're letting yourself get dragged by someone who simply does not deserve you. For you he is especial and that's why this is such a big deal for your heart, but he is already not choosing you babe:( if you don't see him daily just block him everywhere and delete all his contacts(to help yourself), and you don't own anyone an explanation but if you must just send him a "i'm prioritazing me right now, I do not hope you understand why I have to distance myself from you because if you don't already know just comes to show how much damage you are to my life." or smth. 

He can go on and try to contact you somehow, remember HE IS A CHEATER, HE WANTS TO KNOW HE HAS YOU AND HE HAD AT LEAST A YEAR TO BREAK THINGS OFF WITH HIS GIRL (even if it wasn't to be with you but because" he doesn't love her anymore") BUT DIDN'T.

Move on and be strong for yourself.