I know that she had a hard upbringing and all, and I may get roasted for what I'm going to say but... I just hate the fact that she's overthinking everything all the time and that she seems like she is suffering all the time even though she doesn't and that she just such a wimp and that she's shy to the point of being annoying 😅😅 sorry but I wished she just stopped
Comment by baunero on Under The Oak Tree - Chapter 78
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@baunero I think everyone should respect your opinion!
And ur kinda right and at the same time for me I do understand her because that is her Trauma response..she never felt good feelings like beeing loved so her struggles are deep..but I am sure she will heal and grow 😊
And ur kinda right and at the same time for me I do understand her because that is her Trauma response..she never felt good feelings like beeing loved so her struggles are deep..but I am sure she will heal and grow 😊
@baunero Abuse victims always have bahavioral quirks that are sometimes... hard to fathom, illogical and//or annoying. as a reader, the frustration is real. IRL victims have a hard time maintaining relationships becasue their emotionally traumatized brain spirals to dark places and twists what they percieve so the pleasant conversation you had yesterday may have warped into a sarcastic jab overnight and you have no clue how it happened. you don;t know if the person is a jerk, or if they are just so hurt and scarred from their past you need more patience ot develope the relationship.
from the abuse she has learned she is always wrong, she has no value, and she is a burden. she was extreamly anxious and depressed. She has learned not to want or wish for anything, as it will just lead to dissapointment and more abuse. As a reader I just want her to lean on Raftain and be open and happy. but depression alone is irrational at times and breaking out of the self depricating gloom is a challenge to even the happiest seemign of people (eg: robin williams)
from the abuse she has learned she is always wrong, she has no value, and she is a burden. she was extreamly anxious and depressed. She has learned not to want or wish for anything, as it will just lead to dissapointment and more abuse. As a reader I just want her to lean on Raftain and be open and happy. but depression alone is irrational at times and breaking out of the self depricating gloom is a challenge to even the happiest seemign of people (eg: robin williams)
@baunero
Spoiler!
Don't worry bez she is gonna go through a slow but very big character development that will blow your mind actually both of them will but she will have big one
@baunero I understand your point, but what's she doing is 100% real and I am a living proof of it🥹 being exposed to abuse from a young age and going through so mich trauma makes our overthinks literally everything. And yes it is annoying but hard to overcome
@baunero I'm with you buddy