@u so stupid sure. [poco:0] OK. I'm not wise. I just encountered people like that black-haired guy IRL. Some of them are even parents to my (college) students. And some were actual boyfriends of my students. Lots of them around. I'm actually quite surprised that people fall for these guys and then later have to go through so much therapy after all the trauma.
I'm a 40+ old auntie who likes BL. My husband calls them the "anti-husband system". 😅