i think as we grow older we'll relate more to mr choi. we don't have to fall in love to be in a relationship. feelings change. commitment & respect should be the foundation of any relationship. I'm in my late 20s and it's harder to fall in love again and again as time goes, we want to feel content rather than being overwhelm with feelings. it's not that we're emotionally unavailable, eventually love grows due to the time we spent together with our partner. so yea i can relate to mr choi
@yoohanz ....right there with you.... emotions are like a vampire sucking you mind and soul dry.....we place way too much emphasis on them then what they sometimes are really worth. Lüst and romance are not eternal.... they die and what's left over time is the bond that's been formed over what you go thrú together in life. It's better to be content and accept each other's faults than blinded by love.
@yoohanz I wouldnt have a bothered me if he was upfront about what he was looking for from the start. I get what you saying, I'm also in my late 20s but If he wanted to be a sugar daddy (I don't mean that in a derogatory way) there would be people out there who also want that kind of relationship. Its cruel to ask to be someone's boyfriend when you have no intentions of fulfilling that role. It would be different if he if it was just a matter of being slow to fall in love or not as emotional but he doesn't even want that.
@yoohanz so real, i havent been in love since kindergarten, the other times Ive had a crush was bc it seemed like the trend so i followed it, and the only cute Guy in my class was my cousinmy heart would be so weird but now Im cringing, I was cuter when i was younger and all the boys were UGLY AF LIKE LITERALY, i wanna spend time with someone without any pressure and enjoy mysel
@yoohanz you’re absolutely right but the problem here is that the top intentionally starts „this relationships” to make other person happy and by doing that it’s normal that his partners just fall for him, because the feel safe, comfortable and happy. But the thing is he is doing that for his satisfaction only, he does not feel love nor even sense of need to depend on his partner- that means he doesn’t really know what a relationship is, he is just phrasing it that way because that what he wants in the end, but he just can’t feel it, that why he is so obsessed with them. I think that’s not normal but a problem which need solving
